Self-diagnosing oneself has become a very huge problem, one that people need to pay attention to. These days it is easier to self-diagnose especially with websites like Web M.D. Many are mixing normal human emotions with serious mental illnesses. A good example would be college, maybe you have three exams and a paper due in one week, and of course it’s normal for people to feel nervous. However, they does not mean that you have an anxiety disorder. Perhaps you like things to be neat, that does not mean you have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. I think one of the biggest wrong self-diagnosis is depression. No one said life was easy, life is actually hard and complicated. Just because life has thrown you a few obstacles does not mean that you have depression. You will not suddenly become depressed; it is a process that can take many months or even years. Depression is not something that suddenly appears out of nowhere. Many commercials are out there now promoting medicine for disorders and proscriptions for depression are constantly on. So not only do we have the Internet to miss guide us we also have the television. After a while of listening to these commercials you might start believing you have these symptoms along with a certain disorder. I think another disorder that people keep miss self-diagnosing himself or herself with is ADD. Everyone has trouble concentrating at one time or another, especially as college students. Ironically, new studies have shown that most ADD symptoms come from having bad eating habits. Instead of falsely diagnosing yourself, learn how to relieve stress, eat right, and get a good night sleep. Living a healthier lifestyle would in turn make you feel better in all aspects of your life. However, if you really do believe you have a particular disorder go discus it with your doctor. When in doubt, check it out.
We learned about the 5 stages Freud believes builds personality. The first stage is the Oral stage. During this stage which occurs during the first year of life the child will place everything in its mouth. This is the child’s way of learning. Freud believes that you can get stuck in any of these stages. I am a nail bitter. I always have something in my mouth so I believe I may have gotten stuck in this stage. A bottle was always my best friend when I was a baby. At least that’s what my mother says. The 2nd stage is the Anal stage this occurs in the 1st three years of life. This is attributed to the fascination with going potty all by their self. The 3rd stage is the Phallic stage this occurs from age 3-6 and is the stage that everyone finds the most odd. During this stage Freud believes you have emotional feelings for your parent of the opposite sex. I related to this for sure when I was a kid. I always told my mother that I wanted to marry a guy just like daddy. My thoughts have defiantly changed from this now. This is also the stage where your super ego forms. This gives you the ability to know right from wrong. The 4th stage the Latent stage occurs from age 6 on through puberty and this is the understanding that a boy and a girl have different “parts”. My friends little sister is 7 years old and is a prime example of this. She was ridding the bus home from school and decided to pull a little boys pants down and then her own to show him that she didn’t look the same. he 5th stage is the Genital stage and as hinted by the name it is the consciousness of sexual feelings. This occurs from puberty on. From all of this you can see just how flexible the human personality really is. Is it not odd that I could have at age 1 developed oral fixation and had no idea. Or that my friends little sister was portraying obvious examples of Freud’s ideas. These studies are fascinating and though some of his ideas are not entirely reasonable the development of personality is one of my favorites of his.
When we touched on personally in class, it really got me thinking about what type of person I would be characterized as. We touched on three different types of personalities, Type A, Type B, and Type C. Type A is very ambitious, hardworking, uptight. This type often has a hard time relaxing and taking time to themselves. They always feel like they have something that needs to be done. Type A people can also come off as perfectionist. On the other hand, Type B people are more laid back. They are more optimistic. They have an easier time relaxing. These people tend to be productive under stress. They are very much relaxed, patient and have a lot of self-control. One of the major traits of Type B personality is that these people do not get irritated or angry easily. Type C people are emotionally repressed. People with Type C personality traits are unable to express their emotions, feelings or needs to other people. These people are true introverts and you will never find them showing their anger or being over ecstatic about anything. In fact these people often ignore and deny their feelings and maintain a kind of rational, no-nonsense and unemotional outward demeanor all the time. Type C individuals are also thoughtful and are deep thinkers. They like to know the details of each and every task at hand and have a need to know why things are the way they are. I think many of us do not really put too much thought into what kind of personality type we have. I think that it is very important to recognize your type so you can understand your self better and also it could make you more understanding of others. For example, you might think someone who is self controlling is arrogant, but perhaps they are a Type A and cannot help the way they act.
In chapter 11 weLear Ed about autism spectrum disorders I’ve never really have never had much experience with people who have Autism, although I’ve known a few people from a distance who have been diagnosed: mostly customers that have come into my parents’ restaurant there is one family that BOTH their sons are autistic. I couldn’t even imagine the hardship. But there was one experience I have had when I was sixteen years old that has forever left an impression on my heart.
At sixteen I was also working a part-time job in the mall at one of those trampoline places. It was a fun job. I worked with children all day and I have always loved working with kids. One afternoon a mother came with her 8 year old son. He has a sweet, round face and pretty blue eyes. I didn’t notice anything off right away. But she said, “My son is autistic and we really want to try this. But he just learned to skip yesterday, so I’m not going to get my hopes up. The first attempt she did to convince the little boy–I believe his name was Billy–to jump on the trampoline, he wouldn’t have none of it. The mother smiled and said they would just try again a little later.
About an hour later, Billy and his mother returned. Now at the time, I really didn’t know anything about autism. I just smiled my most friendly smile and knelt down in front of Billy and asked him if he wanted to jump. He nodded his head yes but didn’t say anything. His mother watched our interactions closely. Billy allowed me to take his hand (again, I wasnt aware how miraculous this was) and brought him in front of the trampoline. He was scared by I smiled at him again and explained to him that I was going to lift him up and put a harness on. I told him the harness was to protect him. I was agitated but step by step I coaxed Billy onto the trampoline and into the harness. His mother stood by holding her breath. Billy was still agitated and scared. But I kept my smile and only raised the harness with him in it slightly. I took Billy’s hand and started jumping gently. He looked a little amazed and slowly a smile spread across his sweet face. Little blitters I raised the harness a little higher so that Billy was eventully jumping at a good height while I still held his hand. I explained I was letting go but I would still stand beside him. When he seemed comfortable, I hopped off the trampoline and stood directly in front of Billy, smilIng and cheering him on. When I turned towards his mother she was sobbing. And smiling. She said,” I can’t believe it. He just learned to skip and now this. ” it was at that moment what a huge achievement jumping on that trampoline truly was for BilLy.
I was overwhelmed with emotion that I had helped make such an impact on Billy and his mother. She thanked me profusely and told me how much it meant to her that I had stuck with it and helped Billy achieve something new. I’ve never forgotten Billy and his mother. But I know when I looked in his eyes I saw understanding. I know there has to be more to autism then even recent research can know. I hope one day we can understand it more so that we can better understand the sweet Billy’s of the world.
We learned in chapter 13 that the culture of children includes certain rules, behaviors, or values that are passed down to younger children from slightly older children. I have personally seen the idea of the culture of children play out in many ways between my sister and me. My sister Caroline is three years younger than me and I am proud to say I have always been her role model. However, this is not necessarily good in all situations. When I was younger I was terrified of thunder storms. Caroline didn’t seem to be scared of storms until she started noticing me get upset during a storm and she soon developed a fear for them as well. From then on when I would get upset in certain situations my mom would try to not let Caroline notice because she knew my sister would develop the same fear or worry that I had. Another situation when this did not play out to be a positive thing was when Caroline noticed how I reacted towards going to school. Caroline loved pre-school until she started seeing me get upset when I went to school. I had bad separation anxiety (chapter 7) from my mom when I was little therefore, my first years of going to school were not easy. As embarrassing as it is for me to think about today my mom would literally have to drag me down the hall way as I cried my eyes out everyday my first few years of school. Soon Caroline got upset about going to school and my mom was not surprised. A part of the mimicking that at times made me hate having a younger sister is their desire to wear all of your clothes. When we were younger Caroline wanted to have all of the same outfits I had, to this day she takes clothes out of my closet and it drives me crazy. However, I have learned to accept the fact that she is going to model my behaviors, style, and values therefore, I need to be the best role model possible. Another group of people I also strive to be a wonderful role model to and see the idea of the culture of children play out in is my small group of seventh grade girls. Although they are older and not quite children I often notice that they want to know what I did when I was there age or my personal opinion on situations they are in. I believe that is why I have been put in their lives because even though their parents might give them the same advice I do they are a lot more likely to listen to a young adult they look up to. I know when I was in middle school I would have been much more likely to listen to hard advice if a college girl told me than if my mom had told me. Therefore, for my sister and these young girls I try to be the best role model I can be because I know they will copy my actions, my style and even look for my advice as the culture of children proves.
Today’s class opend a realm of creativity to me and the entire class. The activity showed me that everyone has different interpritations of peoples perceptions of pictures. I believe that this activity should have and could have been done with each student in class foB more participation and variation of different attitudes and story telling. I brought a concept of a psych SI to the attention of Ms. Cunningham and that if you (people reading this) have partisipated in any SI it is educational fun being a serious type of environment with some fun in with it. But the psychology club that the entire class was supose to come up with ideas for to gather activites to gain interest. If/when the club is established this activity would be a great for the chapter 7 when it come about again.
Another thing i want to talk about is the whole aspect of IQ and the test it presents. In all the ones I have taken in my past, i had scored higher when i was indepth in my school work during my high school years such as taking english 3 algebra 2 chemistry 1 etc. My brain activity was extremely high and when i took the IQ test the first time i scored about a 121 and i was satisfied with my score for being a 17-18 year old. Then when i finished high school and graduated and got out into the summer before collage. With this time in educational status i had decliened and when i had re taken the IQ i scored around 117 which is still very good for being educationally inactive. But like Ms. Cunningham said in class that all the score is a gradification for that person at that point in their life. Where as now and i have always have been more of a practical intellegance type person, “street smart”, “common sence”. I feel that the practical intellegance is just as important and i keep learning day by day and improving my skill set as a working man to help me earn more money from being able to do more and more.